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Real Estate Agent Podcast Episode 83: Using Perspective to Gain Self-Confidence and Achieve Your Goals

Episode 83: Using Perspective to Gain Self-Confidence and Achieve Your Goals
January 12, 2022

Amira Alvarez is the founder and CEO of the Unstoppable Woman, a global coaching company that helps entrepreneurs, empire builders, and rising stars in all fields achieve their goals by working from the inside out.

 
Everyone's capable of [success]. Not everyone is willing to do what it takes to make that happen.

Amira Alvarez

About This Episode

Amira Alvarez is the founder and CEO of the Unstoppable Woman, a global coaching company that helps individuals in all fields achieve their goals by working from the inside out. 

Through self reflection, extreme ownership, and business fundamentals, Alvarez has helped thousands achieve their dreams by making the right decisions day-in and day-out.

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Episode Transcript

Intro: Hey there and welcome to Shoptalk, the real estate show. I’m Brett Van Alstine and on today’s episode, we’re joined by Amira Alvarez, Amira is the founder and CEO of the Unstoppable Woman, a global coaching company, helping entrepreneurs, empire builders, and rising stars in all fields achieve their goals and dreams faster than they ever believed possible. She also created and hosts the podcast Unstoppable Woman available on all podcast platforms. Today we discuss how everyone is capable of success, but to reach that success they have to take ownership of all aspects of their lives to achieve their goals.

Brett:

Amira, thank you for taking the time to hop on the podcast and talk with me today.

Amira:

I'm super excited to be here, Brett. Thanks for having me.

Brett:

So Amira, when you say that you can achieve your goals faster than you ever thought possible, what does that exactly mean?

Amira:

Yeah. So this is all about context. This is all about perspective mm-hmm when I was first starting, like going for more in my business. Really? I decided I was scaling and decided I had a big income goal. And that, that was really what I was focused on now, you know, I'm looking at other things in my life as well, but at the time it was strictly an income goal that I was going for. And I thought based on how I was raised, what my conditioning was that you had to put the time in that it, you had to go incrementally that you had to go step by step and sure enough, you, you can't skip any learning. You can't skip some of these foundational steps, but you can do it faster than you think mm-hmm. And you can really close the gap on time. And when I started to learn this and, and really understand what the methodology was behind doing that so that you can do it consistently and again and again, that year. And I like sharing my numbers cuz I think it helps give context. Okay, great. That -

Brett:

Helps you too, gives you a little credibility.

Amira:

Does lend some credibility, like I'm not just like making this stuff up. < > you know, then I, I went from $138,000, which was a nice solid six-figure income. As a solo entrepreneur, I might have had one part-time assistant VA, but really it was my own business, just me in it to 700 K in one year. So I five times my income in one year. And how did, how do you do that? Like, and even that year having lived through it, I was like, well, how the heck did I do that? Like what, what exactly happened there? And, and I went back and I, I, I went through the steps that I took that year, the steps that I had taken previous years, where my income had done well, you know, went from $30,000 to $90,000, $90,000 to $138,000, but like wasn't at, at that same scale.

Amira:

And then what did I do to cross the seven-figure mark and keep scaling? Like I've, I've really studied that and what it takes to, to do it faster. Not necessarily, it doesn't mean you skip steps. You have to break through the challenges that are in front of you in every single entrepreneur or small business owner, contractor consultant, you know, real estate agent mm-hmm in the case of your, your audience. Like there are challenges that come up for everyone and you have to know how to break through those challenges faster. Then you've been doing it and you have to hold yourself to a higher standard around that. Everyone's capable of it. Not everyone is willing to do what it takes to make that happen.

Brett:

Yeah. You know, people always say that they want that, you know, the results of that work, and they want more on their plate when push comes to shove and they have more responsibilities fall on their plate. They're usually saying they're too full and they can't keep going.

Amira:

Yeah. Overwhelm is a big thing, right? Mm-Hmm-hmm and, and you know, the name of my business is called unstoppable women, but it applies to women and men, both mm-hmm what are the things that you tell self that you agree with to get yourself to stop? Overwhelm I'm too busy. I don't have any more time. I don't have enough money. Mm-Hmm I don't, I don't, I don't have the capability. I haven't been in business long enough. Mm-Hmm I don't have permission. I'm not worthy. Right? Like these are all the stories that we tell ourselves stories and I'm raising my hand to this. Right, right. Like I had to, I had to move through these stories myself. I'm not immune to this, but now I recognize, oh, I'm so tired. That's a story of, okay. Mm-Hmm I, I and let, let me contextualize that.

Amira:

So recently we've been shifting some things in the business. We're really, we have some really awesome growth initiatives. We're bringing on so many more team members, you know, more clients. It's all great. Mm-Hmm okay. Mm-Hmm and like there are 50 gazillion more things on my plate. And, and as it is for every entrepreneur, right. Every level of growth, there's like, there's that hiccup that happens when you're like, what happened to my frigging day and I, I really, I do have a bit of the Energizer bunny thing. I do love waking up. I have the beat, the sun thing. I wake up early. Oh yeah. And I, I put in some solid time because I'm into it and I love it. It's not because there's a monkey on my back. However, part of that time is my own visioning, my own planning, my own time to execute.

Amira:

And I was finding myself with 10, our meeting days, which is unsustainable mm-hmm okay. And I was like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. This can't go on. Like, I could do this for three weeks. But I can't do this for, forever. So I could either be in the complaint of I'm so overwhelmed. There's so much work or I can make a better decision. Our, our greatest powers are power to choose, but most people don't use it. Mm-Hmm most people are reactive. Most people are a victim of circumstance. I could have been a victim to, you know, the stuff that I was creating. Right. Like I have all these initiatives, I'm the CEO of the company. Okay. Mm-hmm , I'm the one that's driving this or I could say line in the sand standard.

Amira:

Guess what team meetings happen between nine 30 and three 30 without exception. Like, and 60% of that time, max is meetings. The other 30, 40% need to be free. Mm-Hmm and this is from this point going on, we had a two week, you know, time to shift the schedule. And I've got the poorest boundaries. Don't bring anything to me. Like just don't ask me if I can do a V I P day on such and such a day. Don't ask me if I could fit in this. Just don't ask, like, you need to help me here. I know like that. I wanna say yes, but that we can't do that. That's how you get over the overwhelm, but it's also how you hold a higher standard with your team. Then they have to make decisions. You have to, you have to learn how to delegate more.

Amira:

You have to learn how to make quicker decisions. Nothing has fallen through the cracks. Okay. I'm just no longer working 14 hours in meetings or whatever it was. It was some pre you know, it was 14 hour days, but probably 10 hours of meetings. It was nuts. It was that's crazy. Yeah not how I wanna run my business or live. No, willing to do it for a short period of time. But then it's like, this is becoming a habit that is an unsustainable higher standard. And not the story that wanted to creep up because that's what, this is an example of mm-hmm was, I'm so overwhelmed and I have no power to change anything it's just happening to me. Right. And I refuse to live that way. We're a hundred percent personally responsible for our outcomes. So I'm at cause here mm-hmm okay. I am putting a cause that's into effect. I'm putting something into play that is giving me this result, which means I can make a change. And the universe will adjust accordingly mm-hmm and your universe will too

Brett:

Yeah, no, I haven't. I, I sort that for sure. And it's, I think what's important out of that message is you realize really early on that, that that was not sustainable, that you had to kind of set up some parameters around guys, you know, me, I'm going to be a hundred percent in all the time. And I can't say no, but I know that that's not going to help us ultimately reach the new stages of success that we, we all want to be at.

Amira:

Correct. And for the most part, one time, one person asked me and I used the example, can you do a V I P day on this day? I'm like, Nope. Nope. And, and I'm like never, and I lovingly said, never bring that to me again. Okay. So I can hold boundaries. I'm very proud of myself for that and, and they will be tested. Not, not because the universe is against you, but then, because the universe is for you. Right? But you have to step up and, and show that you're capable at a higher level of living at that higher level.

Brett:

Of course, of course, of course. So we, before you were kind of touching on the early stages of your business and you were hitting the incremental growth, but you had wanted to make that faster. What was the point where you really sat down or you just had that aha moment of things need to change? This is what I need to do, or was it of overtime, you just made the right decisions, and that compounded

Amira:

So it wasn't either, or the, the big breakthrough moment for me, I call it my come to Jesus moment where I had that like, yep. Like, oh was, you know, the year before I had made that $138,000, I cross the six figures. I felt pretty solid about that. But I, I was, you know, at the end of a long day and I've always loved to work, so I'll wake up early and I'll go hard all day and it, and it's, it's something that is exciting to me. Mm-Hmm and I own that. Yes, I love yoga and yes, I like to take walks and like, right. There's a balance there. But I really love my, my work. I'm engaged by it. Mm-Hmm. And, and if you don't love your work, you, you really do need to look at that.

Amira:

You need to, you either need to change how you're doing it. The people you're doing it with, or you need to look at your attitude or, or that you're in the wrong line of business. But, but you, you have every, everyone has the potential to have a lit-up life, but you have to make choices around that. Mm-Hmm. So, anyway, this was the end of a, you know, long day. It was probably 6:30 at night. And my husband called up from downstairs and was like, Hey baby, dinner's ready. I was like, oh, thank you. I'll be right down. I just wanna get one more thing done. Infamous last words. Last, just one, one more and more thing, more thing. OK. And I don't know if it was a half an hour, 45 minutes later, but he was like, I'm starting.

Amira:

And I was like, oh, this is just not like, what am I doing here? And he didn't, he didn't guilt me. He didn't shame me. He's a good guy. Mm-hmm. But I was like, this is not how I wanna live my life. And I had a little witness moment there where I looked at myself and it wasn't a client-facing day. So I was sitting on the floor of my office, leaning up against the couch with my laptop on my lab. And I looked at myself and I'm like, it is seven o'clock at night. You have not showered today. You're still in the clothes that you slept in. And let me just tell you, like, now I sleep in some like pretty, pretty swanky thing. Things. These were like dog hair covered, like grungy sweats and t-shirt right. And think it's a worse Brett, like hadn't brush my teeth.

Amira:

Like it was gross. A mirror. I know shocking you worked this, but we were five years old. And like, I was like, this is not how I wanna live. Mm-Hmm okay. This is not the woman I wanna be. This is not, this is not an act of self-worth. And quite frankly, this is not how Beyonce does it. OK. OK. Like, like this is not how Richard Branson does it. This is not how Oprah does it. Like I knew in that moment that super people were not doing this mm-hmm okay. They might have gone through this stage, but they were not still doing this. And how do I close the gap on that? How do I be more like successful people? Mm-Hmm to Uber successful people than more like how I was conditioned to put myself last, right? Whether it's clients or the work or the high husband or whatever.

Amira:

I was putting myself last how do I, how do I shift things and still be like the woman I wanna be, but working at a different level. So that was, that was my wake-up moment where I had to really figure it out. And I went on a whole process of learning from different people, hiring mentors, mm-hmm studying success on my own. I spent at least two hours a day studying, like what successful people did. I was like this, I, I gotta figure this out. And, and acting and executing at a totally different level. Mm-Hmm. So that, that was the year that I went from 1 38 to 700. Wow. And so I really was putting these things into action, but ultimately it was not just that one wake-up moment. It was the consistent action, right. The consistent awareness over time. So awareness, who do you need to be? What do you need to do? What's the action. Go do it. How fast can you make those decisions and close the gap on time and doing that again and again, and again and again? Right. And that's why it's both a wake-up moment and incremental.

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Brett:

It seems like once you had that aha moment, you really were kind of calculated with your steps, moving forward, you know, talking about making the right decisions over and over and being consistent. You know, people could have that aha moment, but then not take the time to really, you know, ultimately do what they're wanting to do and doing what they're going to, you know, do, it's like, it's the saying of doing what you say you're gonna do, you know, you have, you have to put the action into it. So I mean, that's, it's crazy that you, it seems like it's almost overnight, obviously within a year growing, like that is crazy, but that's, some people would certainly call that an overnight growth. That's pretty crazy.

Amira:

It was an overnight growth based on lots of rights. Okay. And lots of effort. Mm-Hmm and it wasn't, it wasn't really overnight, there were, yeah, I was gonna there a lot and there were a lot of sleepless nights. Okay. I'm a solid sleeper now, cuz I've moved through that. There, there were a lot of sleepless nights and, and it was also a culmination of who I had been, how I had been up until that point. So, you know, it always looks, yes, that was fast. Yes. I hold a carrot up that people can do it faster than they think that they can mm-hmm but then there's, there, there is growth that has to happen. And one of the biggest things Brett, that I did was I worked with a mentor who helped me understand the power of self-image and identity.

Amira:

Okay. Who I was being sure. And help me reframe the beliefs I had about myself. Mm-Hmm so that self-image and identity. Yeah. The beliefs I had about others and the beliefs I had about the way the world worked. Yeah. Because didn't have it. Correct. Okay. Okay. And because I didn't have those beliefs correct. For success for financial success. I wasn't going to act according to those correct beliefs for success. I was gonna act according to the correct beliefs for staying at the level that I was at. Okay. Right. And for most people it's very frightening to adjust their beliefs because they were brought up in a family that said, this is how you are a good person. You are a good person by believing these things. Mm-Hmm. And so for instance, you know, I just did podcast recording on this, that we're, we're gonna drop in a week or two.

Amira:

I don't know when I'm not in charge of the schedule, but I just, I just told this story of how I had this big, new training. We were unveiling. It was on my birthday. I had chosen in advance. Like I'm gonna do this three-hour training in the morning, hang out with my, my boyfriend in the afternoon. But like this, I'm all in. Let's do it. This is, this is, this is, remember the crazy schedule. It was in the middle of the crazy schedule and like, this was the only time. And the night before I'm about to go to bed early so I can wake up early and I get this text from my sister, which was very unusual. Not only because she doesn't she's in the UK and she would've been up in the middle of the night.

Amira:

Yeah. That's the text. Yeah. That time changes. Exactly. And she said, have you talked to mom today? She doesn't sound very good. You need to call her. And my mom's 82, she lives in Los Angeles by herself. Okay. And I call her and she can talk to me for 90 seconds before she has to get off the phone. She can't keep her head on up. I'm like she had fever and chills. I'm like, oh my God, my mom has COVID. Right, right. Like right. And, and she's, doesn't wanna talk and then she's not picking up the phone and you know, and the story continues to want the whole story listens to podcast but the point in bringing this up is the old me would've gone into CIP, like flipped out. Okay. Because that's how you show love to your families by freaking out.

Amira:

Okay. That's how you show, you're paying attention. That's how you show that you're a caretaker. And instead, I methodically went through what needed to be done. We took care of her. She got, you know, I was able to hire a doctor that came to her house and, and all of, and she was taken care of and she doesn't have COVID and all of that. But and just use that as an example, because it was a belief that was so ingrained in me that you have to drop everything for your family, that other people's needs come before your own. And that if you put yourself first, it, it by definition means putting other people last. Right. And what I did instead was I did both, it's an Anne more universe. So I took care of that, sent my sister a text.

Amira:

I was like this where we're at, I need three hours tomorrow. And then I'm all in mm-hmm can you, can you get it covered for, for those three hours that I'm doing the training? She's like, yep. Got it. And we were off to the races if you will. That's kind of a funny expression when talking about mom < > but you know, I bring this up because a lot of women, but men too, have this idea that it's an either-or-universe or I can be a good husband, I can be a good wife. I can be a good partner. I can be a good daughter parent, or I can run my business. And that's a belief that's gonna hold you back in. I had to really work through so many of these kinds of beliefs in order to break through mm-hmm because you have to do things differently.

Brett:

It's embracing the power of and correct.

Amira:

Yeah.

Brett:

Yeah. So through your coaching business, obviously one of them, kind of the core principles in education. You had just kind of touched on your podcast. What are some channels that you used to, you know, help educate individuals about ultimately, you know, owning all of their decisions, having a hundred percent responsibility and, you know, reaching that success that they ultimately want?

Amira:

Yeah. Fundamentally, I love teaching. So check out our podcast, right. It's called the unstoppable woman dot it's called the unstoppable woman. It's on all the podcast channels. You can find it on our website, which is the unstoppable woman.com/listen. Okay. And you can see all the episodes there, but that's great like that's me teaching a ton about all these topics. I really believe in the power of education and teaching, but the, that I got up until I went into business, got me to be a really good student. Mm-hmm it got me great grades, but it didn't teach me how to do well in business. So this podcast is about how to do well in business, the inner and the outer game of it. We, we even put our, a few coaching calls on there, so you can hear me coach and, and you can glean, you know, transferable ideas for yourself.

Amira:

So there's a lot of good stuff there. And then fundamentally we do, you know, we put on a summit for women in business called unstoppable women income, breakthrough summit, but, you know, and we have tons of free downloads on our website. You know, this is big, we have a morning mindset club. Like there's just also a lot going on. Yeah. A lot going on to help people really breakthrough and people might ask, like, why do you do every, all this stuff for free? Cuz like I would say probably 80% of what we do. We put out there for free. Wow. And it's because I really have a strong stance that the I give the more I receive and it's never, it's never done me wrong. And it makes me feel great about what I'm doing in this world and a certain number of women who really want to break through and do it faster. We'll wanna become a client and it, and it all works out for the best.

Brett:

So of course, well earlier we were talking about the universe and if you're, you know, if you're putting as much out, you're gonna get it back

Amira:

A hundred percent. So, so giving is the first law of receiving. Okay. Right, right. And, and I did, I did not get that. That was a belief that I had to change. I mean, I understood the words mm-hmm, like, I'm like, oh, those are pretty words, but the practice of it, but the practice of it and it's not. And, and, and what's most important here is the intentionality behind what you're doing. Mm-Hmm so you can, you can say that you're giving, but you can be holding a little bit. That doesn't work. It has to be a full, clear, clean give. And I had to learn that around money and around intellectual property and all of that. Now don't go like copying my stuff like that.

Brett:

Yeah. I'm taking all these notes down over here. < > right. Like

Amira:

There's intellectual property. Like, be cool. But you use it to help you. This is, this is how we make the the world a better place. Right. And if everyone did that, we live in an expanding universe, so it would just get better and better and better and better. And what, I didn't understand that I really, I heard the words, but I did not understand that I had scarcity. I thought if I give too much, there will be nothing left to give. Like what would I have to give people who pay me? Well, there are more guys. Okay. Like there's there, there's not a limited amount. The more you give, the more you have to give it's it's it's phenomenal. And that includes money. The more you give, the more you spend, the more you have naturally mm-hmm . And that was a wackadoodle concept to me. I did not understand that. Okay. I'm like, what do you mean if I give then there's less money in my bank account, but it what's, what, what really happened was when I got the act of giving with, with the intentionality of, of trust and faith and openness and, and true desire to, to help changed everything and, and the flood floodgate open. Right.

Brett:

When going back and you were touching him on about kind of how you're raised to believe this and that. And I'm sure that in that, that idea of scarcity, you have that picture of almost that pie model where if everyone's getting a slice of it, where's my slice. Yeah. When and in reality pie, just getting bigger. Exactly. It's always, it's always just gonna get bigger. That's so cool though. I love that message. So you, can you tell me about a mind shift you've experienced during your career? One that specifically kind of enabled you to do something with your business and ultimately kind of had that significant impact on your life.

Amira:

Taking a hundred percent personal responsibility would be like one of the biggest ones. It it's, it's one of the linchpins and keys to personal freedom, emotional freedom and financial freedom. If, if you let's say you're, let's take real estate, let's say you're a real estate agent and they're growing your team or you're looking to hire your first person to assist you or whatever. And you start saying, you can't find any good people. Right? Like, there's like, that's a big one for people. Have you heard that before Brett?

Brett:

Oh yeah.

Amira:

Where do you find people? I can't find anyone. There's no one that's gonna be doing right. well, you're gonna get the results of that thinking. Right? Okay. You, you will create that for yourself. Mm-Hmm . Now, if you take personal responsibility for a hundred, all of your outcomes, not just selective ones, but a hundred percent of your outcomes, then you can go, oh, I am not seeing the people mm-hmm but they're here because I know that Brett has a great real estate business. And so, and so has a real estate, but, and look, other people have done it. Okay. So it's possible. Mm-Hmm . And even if other people haven't done it, cuz like, you know, there were times where we didn't have cell phones and people created cell phones. So < > right. And airplanes didn't exist at one point. And someone had, you know, had the idea mm-hmm we can fly.

Amira:

So even if it hasn't been done, you, if you have the idea mm-hmm that I want this it's a, it's a desire. Then the supply is ready to appear. This is the law polar.Okay. And it's here and it's here now. You just haven't seen the way you need to become the person to see the way. And you do that by taking a hundred percent personal responsibility, which is to say, who do I need to be in order to be someone who finds great people? Who, who attracts great people who does the things doesn't complain but puts the listing out mm-hmm right. Who asks all her friends, right? Like all of that, right. There's like a thousand ways to, to get it done. But you need to, you need to take responsibility for all your outcomes mm-hmm and, and hold yourself to a higher level.

Brett:

Yeah. I like that a lot. And it's I think so many people get caught up in trying to blame game of, oh, this was completely outta my control. I, I couldn't do this. I couldn't do that. It's this or that person's fault or whatever. But ultimately when you take that extreme ownership, you find that there's so much more clarity with, you know, how you think, and then ultimately how you make the decisions moving forward.

Amira:

Yeah. And it gives you ultimate freedom and ultimate emotional freedom, not just financial freedom when you start living according to cause and effect and taking a hundred percent personal responsibility for that. You are no longer in this reactive state. And it's no longer happening to you. Mm-Hmm oh, if it's no longer happening to you, if you are at cause then you're free to make the choices required to get different results. That's freedom guys. Okay. It's not happening to you. You are at cause. And that's, I mean then the world's your oyster right? Then it just opens

Brett:

Up. That's awesome. So a little earlier we touched a little bit on self-image and you know, that, that inner identity what roles do you think that that takes and ultimately kind of breaking down the invisible barriers that people put on themselves?

Amira:

Yeah. So the invisible barriers are those self-limiting beliefs. Okay. That's the, who am I to go do this? Who am I to have a fabulous assistant? Who am I to have a team working under me? Who am I to, to get that multi-million dollar listing, right. Who to have five multimillion-dollar listings at the same time. Right? Mm-Hmm like, like whatever, whatever the, the stretch is for you. That's a, that's a, there's a belief issue around that. And it's, and it's how you see yourself. And if you, if you can learn how to your self-image and your identity, and there's a process to that, there's a methodology to that. Then you can keep recognizing your bigger desires, whether they're about your relationship or your business. Mm-hmm , mm-hmm personal life, you know, after I did this for my income, I did it for letting 25 pounds running a marathon. Well, I ran and walked the marathon, but like finishing a marathon,

Brett:

It's still finishing a marathon. That's still impressive.

Amira:

Being in a lit-up relationship, like I used it for all the, all the other goals I had sure as well, and I still do. So you, it it's, you don't get there. There's always more desire. There's always more, more goals, more growth. Mm-Hmm . But once you understand this process, then you can always go, oh, here's my new goal. Who do I need to be to, to be someone who achieves that goal? What's my identity. Mm-Hmm need to be, how do I change my beliefs that are limiting me from being that person? And, and, and it's a cycle from there.

Brett:

Yeah. Yeah. And it, so many people get caught in that cycle of not having kind of that self-confidence and not thinking, oh, I'm in X environment or I have these sort of barriers. I'm never gonna be that person. I'm never gonna do X. I'm never gonna do. Y I'm never gonna do Z. But if you, you know, have that inner confidence and you, you, you make the right choices day by day. You can become that person. But again, it just comes down to self-confidence and then obviously this 100% responsibility,

Amira:

For sure. For sure.

Brett:

So what do you think ultimately, you know, we're talking about success, but what do you think success is really, really based on what do you,

Amira:

Yeah, it's based on a lot of things, but in a nutshell, I would say it's based on, on understanding the laws of success. Okay. Okay. Okay. And, and, and those, I was taught by my mentor. He was taught by his mentor. They've been passed down generation over generation. And the way I've been taught them are these seven foundational laws. And they, they help me understand how to see the world mm-hmm and, and understand how to approach life and business in a way that I just did not have a framework for previous to, to really learning them. Okay. And I learned them from someone else. And then I did deep study on my own so that I could really live them, not just parrot them, but live them. Right. And when I did that, then I understood this is what sick success is based on. Okay. I would also say that you need to really want what you want and you really need to have the belief that you can achieve it. And those two things are, are, are pretty key, but there's lots of other of course things

Brett:

As well. Okay. So I don't want to have you open up too much about the seven laws cuz I'm sure that's all part of the coaching business, but what is one piece of advice that you have for our listeners, for, you know, anyone out there that wants to kind of take those first steps and you know, they have the want, they know what they want, but they're just not, they're almost in that overwhelming stage still where they haven't compartmentalized everything that they need to get done.

Amira:

Yeah. I think there are a couple of things here for one, I go over the laws in, in the podcast. If you go to like, in our pillar episodes, like one of the first five, so you'd have to scan back. Okay. Like we, I think we're at like 300 and something now, but like, wow. Okay. So you'd have to go back and you can do that on the website that the unstoppable woman.com/listen, mm-hmm has all the podcasts there. Okay. And I go through the, the laws, there's one that just takes you through all seven of them in, in detail. And then I teach to that throughout the, the podcast and, and also summit. That's where I go in deep. If, if you are a woman in business, that's a great place to learn them. But in terms of, can you repeat the question I got? I went off on that's

Brett:

There. Yeah. what's one piece of advice you have, you know, for our listeners.

Amira:

Yeah. I mean, fundamentally get help. Okay. Whether it's for me or from some else, like, don't feel like, like you have to do it yourself. Mm-Hmm right. Like I can't do your business for you. You have to do your business. Okay. Mm-hmm but you can shortcut meaning close the gap on time by learning from others who have gone before you. And I would, I would argue that you wanna get help from those who have done what you want to do. Okay. Okay. So if you wanna quantum leap your business, find me right. If you wanna learn the ins and outs of how to build a real estate business, go see what bread has, right? Like, like if you want both, like, you don't have to choose either or right. Like, right. Like I really invested in myself and I got help again and again and again, and then that translates to getting help. Like I hired team contractors, employees, all of that. And I, I did that incrementally mm-hmm but

Brett:

Quickly. Okay. Okay. Awesome. And then last question, if you could go back in time and change one thing, what would it be and why?

Amira:

Yeah. This is such a hard question for me. I know, I know < > because fundamentally I feel like everything in my life has led me to this moment, so I wouldn't change a thing. And I know that sounds a little pat, because we've all had challenges, we've all had hard times. We've all had things that I wish that didn't happen. But the, the flip side is my perspective is that I understand that the universe is always happening for me. Mm-Hmm not against me. Okay. And that everything that I've experienced, if I have the right attitude around it, if I have that be unstoppable attitude, if I have that sort of like this, how is this calling me forward into more, not holding me back then, I've always grown from it. And it's made me who I am. And, and I love all those pieces and I'm not gonna be selective about saying, oh, that one, no. Because I wouldn't have ended up here and it's been a fricking amazing journey and it, like, I can't wait for more. It's just, it's so much fricking fun.

Brett:

So I know that's a, that's a tough question, but I think that that was the perfect answer. I really do. Well, thank you so much Amira for taking the time again, to hop on the podcast and educate myself and our listeners. I think you know, just out of this podcast alone, there's so much to kind of take and digest. But I also think that the resources that you have for everyone they're, they're all so free and they're so accessible that I think there's so much that people can gain from and really learn. So again, thank you so much for taking the time and hopping on the podcast today. I really appreciate it.

Amira:

You're so welcome. This was fun. Great questions. And thank you for having me on awesome.

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